singleparentlife

I always knew and planned that I was going to get married, buy a beautiful house, and have children. Well that was the plan per say. I never would have thought that all with in a year, I would get married, have my house built, and have a my first child and then six weeks later be seperated and filing for a divorce. So this is what it feels like to be starting completely start over.

 It has been 9 months since everything started to unravel, and amazingly things are not that bad. You learn to pick yourself up and get on the ball with things, in a way that I think for most woman, well for me anyways, surprised myself.  Moving in with my parents until I can get my feet on the ground, I went out right away and got myself a job, found daycare for my six week old son and just kept my head high and moving forward.  I have been able to pay bills off and manage to work full time and support my son.

I am not going to say that being a single parent is easy because it’s not, but I’m also not going to say it’s the hardest thing in life either. Yes, being a single parent is hard, but you do what you need to do, and take care of the things that need to be taken care of.  You are not the one who is taking care of your child, the person watching them while you work full time is pratically raising them.  You get them nights and the weekends, but you learn to treasure every minute that you have with them.

Is it the hardest thing that I will ever have to do or go through. I am not going to say that, because I am sure that there are going to be other bumps in the road that I will have to overcome, and I welcome it. I lost my father in the mist of everything, and I have to say that is the hardest thing I have gone through so far.

So being a single parent is just something that you step right up to the plate and take on. It’s all about how you embrace the change and take on the challange. I’m not one of those power to the single mom, because I know there are some single dads out there who are doing the same.

So when I talk to people who are starting over, I tell them to embrace it with open arms, keep their head high and keep a positive attitude because there are always going to be a change in life. Things that we don’t like and things that we do like, we don’t get to pick them we just get to deal with them the best way we know how to!

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